Anonymous asked: I've lived in Chicago for 2 years and have been wanting to get into the scene and make friends, but I'm not sure how to like, not be the awkward person going solo to a show. What do you recommend?
Sometimes you gotta be the awkward person going solo to a show. Punx is for freaks, right? If so, be the freakiest of all and go it alone. Eventually if you go to enough shows you will become a familiar face. Once you become a familiar face old timers will start giving you the “what’s up” nod. After a few months worth of whats up nods people will start saying hi to you then quickly walking away. Then finally people will talk to you and you wil l make friends and feel less isolated. At least that’s how it worked for me.
in 2005 I started going to shitty metalcore shows. by 2006 I was going to shitty hardcore shows. By 2007 I had discovered actual good punk. And by 2008 I was fully emerged in Chicago hardcore and punk. But it actually took me all 3 of those years to makes friends in punk. Sometimes friends from the suburbs would come to shows with me, but more often than not i would make the 1 hour drive into the city by myself. Then sit alone at the shows folding paper to ease my anxiety. A years worth of folded paper later I finally started getting the “what’s up” nods from people
It fucking sucks that punk is so scary. But when you have a room full of 100 people who are all suffering in some way shape or form and every single one of them is an awkward idiot who doesn’t know how to socialize, it’s bound to be awkward.
Now that I have been doing this for a long time i try as hard as possible to make punk more welcoming. I hand fliers to new faces and say what’s up. Or at least i try as hard as I can. Because punk should be welcoming and it shouldn’t take 3 years to make friends. So basically go it alone. It sucks and obviously the ultimate goal is to not be alone, but remember that there’s nothing wrong with being alone. Try to not let it get you down. Punx is loners.So just go it alone and i’ll try and say what’s up to you.